fuck this job.com

I can relate to what you are saying, don't the bosses ever notice that these snitches are just back stabbers, and will if given a chance stab their own boss in the back to get ahead? I personally can't stand a brown noser. I don't trust them and if I were the boss I would certainly see right through them.

i just let the gossipers gossip, if i happen to hear it then fine, but i keep my own personal business to myself and try to stay out of everyone elses shit. exceptions are 1 girl at work that i am really cool with and we talk about things but i know they stay between us, and then one girl that seems to think i am her shrink and as juicy as some of her gossip is i just keep it to myself. of course there are those that think i am stuck up but it's not so much that, it's just if you barely know me and you are telling me all of someone elses business then i sure as hell don't know what you are saying about me when i am not in earshot.

I have proboems figuring that out too. In my last few jobs, I have been nice as I normally am and try and get along with everyone, but I dont join in the bitching and back-stabbing for several reasons. I dont want to be as bad as them, and any opinions I have about my work colleagues I will tell to someone outside the company - you don't know who can be trusted and this is generally no-one.

I once made the mistake of slagging someone off to someone I thought was a friend. They weren't, and a lot of bad stuff happened. nothing hurts worse than being betrayed by someone you think you can trust and from that day forward I am careful about who I even speak to at work, let alone pass comment on.

Every job I have had has resulted in me thinking 'people dont like me' because I have ended up being the butt of everyones jokes, getting called all the names under the sun because I like to keep myself to myself most of the time. I would rather be as I am and know that I'm not causing anyone the hassle that I got because I know how it feels and it stinks really bad.

Go to work and be yourself - if you don't 'fit', its because you are a decent person with morals. It took me a while to realise it, and its hard because you will get treated differently in some places. Just go to work, do what you have to do, go home and forget about it. It's hard to not get woud up sometimes, and i would rather eat shit off an asbestos spoon than have to be nice to these people. When you spend most of your time there it should be better, but you can always look for something else and take the time to find an atmosphere you feel comfortable in.

The boss's know all about the backstabbers, they use this as a tool to fish for everything they need at any given time. Generally when there's a ton of gossip going on, it's because it's ok from the top down. There's no real method to the maddness, be true to YOU, be loyal to the Dollar & always try to think ahead if possible. It's not always bad to have the "dirt" on those type of people, just refrain from using it unless in dire need. Not getting involved with the gossip will always leave you somewhat "out", but that is what puts you above all the drama. Think of what those folks are doing as a form of entertainment, just change the channel & stay clear. No buddies...They are RARE...

sandwichnazi

You guys have got this shit down.....
Fine advice all round.