fuck this job.com

We all hit this stage at different points in our "careers". I hit the wall about 2 years ago. Now, I show up, do what I have to, then leave. They don't get the sweat from me anymore. They don't give a rats ass about you my friend. They never have, never will. Your family and friends, that's what matters in the end.

I was at a family function about 4,5 years ago and the guys were talking about work. One guy was rambling on that money is the only thing that matters at work, and that employers don't give a shit about you. I remember thinking to myself "what a poor bastard, money is the only thing he works for". I was very happy at my job at the time and happily told them that I work with great people. Man was I wrong. I now see the wisdom in that guy's words. If only I had listened to him way back then. He was a fucking genius, a sage. Next time I see the fucker, I shall kneel down and bow before his greatness.

You have achieved enlightenment. Be glad that you now see the light and can put work in its proper place.

There are idiots out there, I worked with one, who no matter how much the company shit on them, they worked extra hard and became super efficient. I could never understand their logic....."I'll show you! Shit on me and I'll work EXTRA hard and efficient for you, that'll learn ya!" The idiot of which I think got laid off with me and I slacked when the company crapped on me. It's sad when you see them in action. They justify their behavior by saying, "I take PRIDE in my work."

Let me give everyone some advice....There is no pride or honor when you are getting crapped on.

At least you are not like some people who, once the company anally rapes them, feels it's their fault and then seeks to work EXTRA hard as a method of proving their self worth and value to the company. It's almost like they were trying to earn the approval their parents never gave them as children.

As Carlos said we all hit that stage of "realization" at different times in our careers. Luckily for me I understood very early in my professional life that no one was going to do me any favors and NOT to do any extra without being compensated. Hell back in the day at my first professional job out of college I made it clear that I don't work overtime for free, I would only travel during work hours and I seldom, if ever went to company functions unless they were on company time. Towards the end of that same job I just flat out refused to travel more than 3 days a month because I was missing too much home life.

And the whole time I was there I saw so many suckers working tons of overtime for free, being away from home on the weekends doing some shit job and what did they get in the end? Laid off, shit on, disrespected, demoted, some had heart attacks and died. All for a fucking job where you will never be respected or in some cases even compensated fairly.

It's sad, it's disheartening but it is Corporate America.

I was one who saw the writing on the wall a long time ago, but I also was raised to look for my self-worth in "career". At the time I had quite a few successful career friends and felt like a loser because I was so disillusioned about work. I ended up blaming myself for years. I guess I was one of those who looked for approval from a "career" as not getting it from my parents. Heck, no father and a single mother raising 4-kids didn't help. I thought a career was my ticket to the good life. I never really shared what I felt because the things that were happening to me didn't seem to be happening to others. In that respect I learned early, but I blamed myself and thought maybe it was a matter of trying harder. Especially, surrounded by "successful" friends.

I worked on myself and worked on myself. I took all sorts of classes, tried harder, blah, blah. I only have now started to smarten up. I feel bad I beat myself up all those years. I felt like I was the only one who, "didn't get it" about work and career. I really did a number on myself and my self-worth. I read all those books about success in the workplace, but none of them worked for me. I just didn't get it. I didn't get the mean, callous games and back-stabbing, and all the other games I was no good at. I believed I had talent and was smart and had been told many times, but I didn't know how to play the "game". I still don't, but at least now I don't care and I can finally take the "career" trophy off the pedestal I had put it on. I haven't really lost anything, but my beliefs about what a career means or what success is. I've managed pretty good by all accounts without a so-called successful career. So you can't lose what you didn't have, but now I am free of the quilt and shame at not having a successful career. I really know and believe success is not about your job title. I knew it before, but didn't really believe it if you know what I mean. They say you can change your behaviors, but if you don't change your beliefs you can still shoot yourself in the foot. That has been the case for me. I am not free by any means of work, but I am free of the dead weight I have carried around for years over it and what it means. Some days are easier than others, but I feel like an addict who is in recovery. I can't change Corporate America, but I can change its hold on me and I can change my beliefs about how god almighty important I thought it was for so long!!!!