fuck this job.com

Where does that guy get off thinking you would even consider going to his house? He is so full of himself, it is kind of funny. (married too!!!) He isn't going to stop this any time soon either. There is a man (old man) at my work, every time I see him, he asks if we can go have a beer. I would have thought the guy would get a clue after 20+ polite NOs but he hasn't. Your crush is going to try every trick in the book. Tell him you are dating someone, maybe that will work.

Report his sorry philandering ass!

what a jackass. You are an attorney. So if i were you, i'd start building up my secret file with evidence of "sexual harrassment" and when shit hits the fan, you can blackmail him or file a suit against his ass.

pile up the evidence and get him for sexual harrassment. What a dick, telling you how wild he was. SO WHAT, as if you care. He is hitting on you HARD. Make him pay, the jackass

I hate to say that one of the main things that worries me about this situation is the fact that he must believe that I am naive (or stupid)enough to fall for his bullshit. I plan on making him pay if I can torture him somehow along my way out it will be done. He's smart though he never blatantly propositions me where anyone else can hear. So pretty much makes it my word against his and he's worked there for years so I know who "they" would believe.

Go to one of those surveillance stores and pick up a tiny mic and a tape recorded. Get yourself a manual drill and bore a tiny, tiny little hole into the front of your desk or into the token "guest" chair in the office and install the mic and mini recorder. Get it ready to record, you know, like fast forward to the actual recording (black) part of the tape. Keep spare batteries in your desk. Then, tape the recorder under your chair, in a drawer or under the desk. Just make sure you can't see the cord and that he can't see it if he comes up behind you. But make sure you can reach it to "pull the trigger" next time he walks in. Keep some spare batteries and let her rip. You WILL get evidence. Don't try to use it to extort him, as that will just set you up to get fucked in the end. He's probably sneaky about other shit, too, and would probably not be averse to setting you up to get fired or making you the fall man and getting screwed in the end. Maybe next time, you can initiate the flirt and then hit "record" while the mother fucker blubbers away. Violá. Take that effing cheater!

Sorry if I'm naive or if I've missed something in your post, but why don't you just ask him directly: "What's your point? Why do you want me to go over when your wife isn't home?"

If he acts surprised, tell him that he's sending out mixed messages and that his behaviour could be easily misconstrued and that perhaps he should be more "careful" especially in these days of sexual harrassment law suits. We women have to learn that it's okay to be blunt and direct.

I was thinking that too but if it doesn't work, then you have to resort to the evidence pile up. Miquie could very well just say "hey loser, back off, i'm not interested" and hopefully he'll back off. Then it will be a very uncomfortable working environment or he can get turned on by her rejection and be more of a jackass or he'll make her life miserable. The only way to find out is to confront him and see how he reacts. Isn't it something? She is a lawyer and has to deal with that kind of bullshit in the workplace. Is anybody not exempt from dealing with crap at work??? I think not.

It is pretty pathetic when even lawyers are getting hit on by knobs! Fuck, the workplace is full of pathological assholes! (Can you tell, I just came back from a 3-hour meeting tonight that I was forced to attend???? Man I'm fed up with shit like this!)

hey just wondering, with harrassment laws, do you need to tell him "no im not interested" and "stop harrassing me".. so if he does it the second time its all over for that creepy jerk ?

I remember something about proving sexual harrassment where its got to be continuously unwelcome advances....

dunno. i aint a lawyer but yeah, sue that asshole but makesure u cover your ass with evidence!

A knee or elbow in the groin does wonders to stop sexual harassment. Much more effective than a law suit.

...and yet I continue to believe that you should approach the situation carefully. Miquie, you are a lawyer and probably already know all this, but just in case....

Yeah, you need to tell him to fuck off AND you should document every instance of the come ons and write down exactly what he said, the best that you can remember it.

But, since he's your super and there aren't any witnesses, it will come down to he said she said if you ever try to take action against him just like all the other bloggers have said.

The OTHER issue is that if you confront him, he will start to perceive you as a real threat. From your other posts, I kind of get that he sort of sees you as a threat, but those feelings he has are tempered right now by his lust for you and his desire to dominate/ belittle you. If you confront him, he might set you up to get fired "with cause" or to receive disciplinary action based on trumped up performance issues. If you tell the truth at that point, which many women do, it will seem like retaliation.

Unless you go to an "HR Manager/ Employee Relations Rep" right now, then the HR people will be used against you once the termination process begins. They will say that you are claiming whistle blower status after the fact, as a way to retaliate or resist institutional action.

Then, you are shit out of luck. No paycheck. Got fired. AND word of sexual harrassment claims spread such that most places won't want to touch you with a ten foot pole. It sucks, but it's true. You really need to use your carefulness, slyness, and intelligence, just like we all know you will.

In the end, you need to document the harassment and to tell someone asap, and document where, when, and who you told and whether or not they did anything about it.

Good luck, Miquie.

Punch that motherfucker's lights out. the dirty rotten bastard?

sue his assssssssssssssssss