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Am I a cold, heartless bitch?

I have a co-worker who has used me and everyone in my department for three years. She would flutter into our offices, compliment us on our hair or clothes, and then wham! ask for that favor. She was infamous for asking for that favor while scooting out the door early, leaving us with half information and an impossible deadline. Worst of all, I and my staff don't work for her, but when we said no, the owner of the company would intervene and ask me to do this favor. I got wise to her antics because she was always leaving for some dire emergency like her dog was sick or she had to go get her roots dyed, you know...the classic "I am more important than you" emergency. My work suffered. I was close to tears every day. I was snapping at my husband and I was angry all the time. And there was no one who would back me up while my boss was getting pissed at me because my work wasn't getting done. My staff and I were so stressed that I decided to take back my job. I told them that we have to say no to her little emergencies and refuse to help. After all, we were the ones making this bitch look good by sacrificing our personal time to do it. It's not like we were getting any kickbacks for being team players. That was one month ago.

So last week this co-worker's mother passed away. Sad, yes. The woman was dying for 69 years. This morning's meeting, which we had to do 1 hour earlier than our normal at-work time to accommodate this co-worker, I was told that my department was going to take over her responsibilities while she "mourned the loss of her loving mother." That was followed by a lecture because our staff wasn't communicating well with the other department. So my department, which already puts in 60 hours to the other department's 30, is going to pick up the slack so this drama queen can chill for a month in Florida. Are you kidding me? I can hardly get myself excited enough to keep my staff motivated (One of my staff acquired blue flu after I only got her a 5% raise--she said that was an insult). So now everything that I told my staff to do--"Just say no"--was nothing but cheap words. I argued in the meeting that we couldn't take on any more of her duties because we were already stretched so thin, but then she burst into a fit of tears and the rest of the meeting was spent consoling her. It was kind of pointless to bother arguing any longer because every one else, whom I may add has not been manipulated by her lies and drama, felt sorry for her. It was then followed by the boss asking everyone to donate $100 to her mother's memorial fund. HUH? Every dollar counts for me right now, and I can't spare $100! I don't drive a company car like all of the other managers (except one)! Why should I be told how much her sympathy is worth??? I don't even like the woman, and her mother, who worked here for about a week, was a total bitch to me, telling me that I'd better lose my baby weight so I can get promoted. That was the very week I came back to work after giving birth four weeks earlier. Obviously a new job is in order, but am I cold, heartless bitch for not wanting to help someone who has destroyed my department's morale and my sanity??

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she'll be $100 short.. lol.
Submitted by faerycatcher85 on Mon, 08/06/2007 - 15:26.

I am honestly astonished that she doesn't ever do her work, gets you guys to do her work for her and nobody has ever said anything to her.
Wtf is that?! A 10 year old could do her job.. which is about the maturity level at which she acts. Don't help that cheesy whore, maybe she'll grow-up. I wouldn't donate $100 to her fund, either.. after the way she has treated everybody, she doesn't deserve it.

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give her $100 and quit.
Submitted by chanonnkum on Tue, 08/07/2007 - 01:52.

give her $100 and quit.

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She falls in shit and comes out smelling like roses, over and ov
Submitted by Mister X on Tue, 08/07/2007 - 22:11.

Same thing happened to me and one of my ex-girlfriends. I was just about to break up with her and her mother died. I had to stay in the relationship another two months then, wham, Christmas came along. So I had to wait another month, three in all to break up.

That sucks when you hate someone then their mother dies. That sucks. Add another month for her Dad when HE goes. Any brothers or sisters? You better quit because she might have a large family. It's never going to end.

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*~Scon~*
Submitted by Scon on Wed, 08/08/2007 - 19:08.

That is pure insanity!!!
Im so sorry, I thought I had it bad working at my company.
I would definatly consider having a sit down with your boss, and be straight out honest with him/her. Let him/her know is this doesn't end you are going to start looking for another job, and if you have been there for a while your obviously and asset and he/her wouldn't want to lose you.

Good Luck!
*~Scon~*

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No longer a bitch...now I'm a slacker
Submitted by opsidewalk on Thu, 08/09/2007 - 14:39.

Princess, who is now dictating orders from her lovely beachside resort in Florida, called the president of the company and said that I wasn't being nice to her and returning her calls. How is possible that she is STILL the company spy when she's hundreds of miles away?? I left early yesterday for an appointment and didn't get the voicemail until this morning, but before I could call her back, the president called me into his office. He said that I was always a team player before but he can't understand why I don't want to help this woman in her time of need. Umm, hello? Isn't this the very reason? Is there a point to me being here, in this office, so you can "scold" me for not bending over and taking it in the ass for this woman? I don't even work for her!!! Basically, I was told I need to shape up and start playing nicely with the people who make him money.

Wrong answer. He just burned the one employee who gave enough of a shit to care about this company and making it profitable. This was never just a job for me...until today. Now it's just a paycheck. I never minded doing the shit work as long as eventually I would work my way up and start making a real living. Getting the job done is not just about the great idea--you need people like me to make the idea happen, not just think it up like princess. I'm not looking for credit, but some respect would really go a long way here. Wouldn't I love to take a month off and celebrate the birth of my child? Why is the death of someone's alcoholic mother so damn special? Why does my husband have three months of paid paternity leave when he didn't even carry the baby? Has capitalism really become so important that people and their families no longer matter? Seriously! Isn't it people first, then money, then everything else? My God...our priorities are so fucked up!

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I prefer being a slacker.
Submitted by wolfietherat on Thu, 08/09/2007 - 16:27.

There is no point what so ever to give a shit at my job. I have a boss that snaps up credit for what I do. I am tired of making her look good, she does nothing for me. I was going nuts "caring" until I realized being a slacker pays the same and is much less stressful.

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