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this is a great post...sad but oh so true. I was in this situation awhile back and am still partly in it. My last boss (before he got fired) was the loud bullying type. He used to take everything I did and he'd turn it inside out to make it look like I did something wrong. It was so nerve wracking just coming into work. I used to see him walking in (two hours late) and I'd want to vomit. I couldn't sleep at night. On Sundays I'd get maximum two hours of sleep and the rest of the week I'd wake up 5 times during the night. Last summer I was out a lot, having fun but always with this nagging depression and rage at the back of my mind. I was so fuckin angry and there was nothing I could do about it.
My new boss isn't that much better, she is the sneaky type. And while I am doing a great job she constantly finds ways to get me in trouble or make me feel like shit. She is just so unhappy with her own life that she sees me and wants to drag me down too. Its fucken sick. I see her doing it to other people as well and I wonder why its got to be like that. Can it really be true that all the shit actually does rise to the top? I don't know what I'm going to do with myself but I take my rage and I use it as a wake up call, to go look for a new job, to go work out (a healthy body is a healthy mind). There is nothing else I can do that wouldn't lead down a path of destruction. Fuck these fuckin monsters with power.

Most of my dealings with bosses and management has been 50-50, some good, some evil. The one question with the evil ones that always pops up is, why are these people like this? If only they could just be sensible and rational.

What makes these assholes, assholes? I think two things, fear and power. I think the assholes see you as a threat and will do anything to keep you down. This threat may be that you're better looking, you don't talk to them enough so they think you don't like them, You're smarter, you're good at your job, the list could go on.

The power one is they just love it that they can make or break you, they make the descisions on your holidays, payrise etc etc. They have the power, and for some strange reason they get satisfaction from controlling us. Why the need to be such an asshole?

In my former job I had this prick of a man boss. He's the type that he shoots from the mouth, and does nothing in the form of work, everyone else does it. The most self centred prick i have ever worked with.

I remember a time when i put in for some holidays and he called me into his office to discuss this. He spoke about the specific month i wanted my measley two weeks off and said, "I could be a real c@nt about this and deny you this time off". Tell me something I don't know asshole. I just nodded and listened to his bullshit. In the end he gave me the two weeks off. But a manager to tell me that he could be a c@nt about this, he was saying, i have the power, look at me, be nice to me or else, i control you.

Long story short with this fukwit, one day I lost it with him over his inability to do his job or any propper work, he sooked to the higher powers, meeting with big nobs next working day, listened to the absolute spew from him and higher management and I handed them my resignation letter.

I could not have worked at that place with him anymore. Luckily for me I could chuck it in because of savings etc, but the 3 months until i found another job was average, not superbad or anything, just a pain in the ass that goes with finding a new job. The other thing was no unemployment benefits at all, nothing for 3 months, just savings.

During this final chat with higher management, they tell me that this asshole is getting a $5000 per year payrise cos the business had grown. What a pack of fukwits, its the people below this piece of shit disguised as a manager that are doing the work, but no payrise for them.

The other staff still at this place still hate the prick, but they continue to suffer him. What can they do? The ultimate answer is find another job and hope its better. But they have constraints, as we all do. Family, house , money etc. Everyone has their break point, I had mine, and my God it felt so good telling him to get fucked. It really did.

How do we put these assholes in their place? I'm not sure. What do we do in the meantime? Try and stay as healthy as you can is number 1. Eat as best as you can, and excersize a few times a week where you sweat like hell. Excersize for me was a great stress relief and of great benefit.

I'm lucky with the job i have now that management are great, and i don't say that lightly. They know their job, and are great support..........so far. Not everyday is Christmas, but atleast the people and management are equal.

Best of luck to all

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If you see a boss who's being abusive I think it's your responsibility to intervene where possible. If that means going above the so called boss or if it means getting some human rights agency involved.

There,s a blog on this site that was started some thing like two years ago and after reading this post I thought about this blog and how a number of employees started posting on it and wow can you believe people are still blogging on that blog! Check it out at http://www.fthisjob.com/node/3196

I think most people get over "boss abuse" fairly quickly and realize where it's coming from. It comes from a jerk who really doesn't mean much in a persons life right?
I mean ya it sucks to have to put up with it while at work but I let it roll off my back and remind myself that "the boss" is nothing to me other the just that a boss! He isn't important in m life, he isn't any more important then some jerk who gives me the finger because I cut him off in traffic. Read that blog and you'll see what I mean about the impact an abusive boss has on people.

BUT........ I've seen people who's job is there identity. These are the people I worry about, These are the people who I think can fall apart and bring a gun to the office and who have a list of names they are planing on seeing that faithful day that they snap because of constant abuse by co-workers or the "boss".

these stories are amazing. i hope if im ever in a management position, that i remember to not morph into some monster, and have people work WITH me, not FOR me.

"bullying" happened to me yesterday, in fact. my project manager called me into her office, where she was conferring with another employee.

she took glee in pointing out that the information i produced for her was not done correctly (ill leave out the details as to what the information was, to keep it simple).

i corrected her-- she had point #1 and point #2 on the survey backwards. after i explained that, the airhead realized she was retarded, then excused me with a glib, "ok, thank you", as if to say "now get out".

the other employee, an architect in this office, and a seeminly nice guy, knew i was none to happy with this wench's attitude. too bad she didnt notice, but at that point she wouldnt make eye contact with me, since her delight in stabbing me in the heart was thwarted.

for hours last night i was calling her names, out loud, in my apartment.